Widow's Fire

I've had sex with five different guys in six months since my LH died 18 months ago. All the sexual stuff started about 8 months ago. I thought i was going crazy! Two of the men were one night stands, one was a fwb and I shortly dated the other two. I was feeling so guilty about it because I've never been this way but now I feel so much better knowing I'm not alone.

I miss how my husband did things to me. I know I can try to teach someone new but there is so much vulnerability and the guys I have met so far have such different styles and desires. What if I can't find that same compatibility? Each new person makes me feel worse and worse about what's out there because no one will ever be my husband and now I am stuck having to live with that forever. I'm angry!!!

We had the best sex life, had an uncanny connection of knowing what each other wanted and needed. Let go of all past inhibitions from previous relationships and enjoyed each other mind, body and soul. We pretty much did everything together by choice and were very happy with that. I knew she was dying for about the last 3 months of her life, that's when it first entered my mind that we would never have sex again as she was too poorly. Soon after her death, missing her closeness and just feeling good about myself I began masturbating. As a 50 year old man, this is something I hadn't done for some years...

I am not widowed but my friend is and is having problems similar to what is mentioned on your site. She didn't have a physical relationship with her husband for six years before he died - he had alcohol related issues and she is now obsessed with sex. I am supporting her - can I join to get information to help her please? Thank you.

I have been dealing with these feelings of desire since my husband passed. We hadn't made love for 6 months before he passed because he was just not well physically. I thought I was losing my mind. I am so happy to find out I'm not alone in this feeling of loss and the need to be intimate.