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Community & Dating
Worldwide Wids on Fire

*For widows/widowers ONLY. 

This is NOT a casual hookup site.

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Widow's Fire
/ˈwidō/ /ˈfī(ə)r/
A burning desire for sex following bereavement of a spouse or partner

The loss of TOUCH.

Living with a lack of INTIMACY.

Let's be open about...

The desire for sex to cope with grief

Understanding your unique Fire

Navigating the dating world

Adjusting to the loss of familiar affection

Guilt & Judgement

Dating disappointments

New heartbreaks post loss

Reconnecting to your body & sexuality

Romantic hopes & dreams for the future

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Widow's Fire Support
I'm Julia, your Widow's Fire Host.

Are you...

Interested in joining a community of like-minded Wids?

Ready to meet potential new friends/romantic partners?

Curious about other Wids' feelings and experiences?

A Wid with kids?  Trying to date while raising kids?

A Wid now experiencing a breakup of a relationship post loss?

In need of support navigating the dating world?

Heartbroken but... hopeful?


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Become a member of the Widow's Fire Community & Dating site!


You lost your person!  You are still human!

You miss the intimacy you shared.

  This is a safe place to talk about dating, desires and a belief and hope for relationships & romance after loss.  Widow's Fire was the most powerful aspect of my grief.   Daily doses of love and affection were wiped out.  I panicked.  5 years later, I am still fascinated by the Fire and the way it has helped steer my new path.

When you are ready to take this step in your grief journey, please know you are joining a community of people who can relate.    It is a place for all who believe in life and love after loss, who want a community of honesty, fun, and support and who understand that this is not a road to navigate alone. 

We are all finding our way through the Fire.

 Create a profile and enter a world where Wids connect over a variety of topics and interests, with the option to message privately.  You never know who you might meet and how your life might move forward. 

It's ok to feel these flames. 

With burning love,


2018 cancer widow at age 31,

1 month after birth of first and only child.

Currently living in Toronto, Canada (2023)

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