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My Widow's Fire Story

My life was turned upside down in 2018 and I have been rebuilding ever since.

I have been hopeful, heartbroken and horny - simultaneously, ever since my husband died.   Dating as a 'Wid' is confusing, but it has also been rewarding on many levels.  I have navigated countless first dates, hopped on and off all the dating apps, embarked on flings, researched attachment styles, love languages, explored and embraced sexual discovery, felt fear and pride in my brave attempts at romance.


The journey can be intense, messy, unpredictable, but keeps bringing me closer to understanding my own heart, standards and dealing with the realities of widowhood and solo parenting.   


In 2020, I started this project to bring awareness to the term Widow's Fire and ways of looking at and  approaching it.  So, here it is, out in the open.  I hope to normalize thoughts and feelings and encourage widows and widowers all over the world to enjoy simple and sexy pleasures in life.  You deserve touch, affection, hugs and kisses.  There are no guarantees in life or love, but I hope you let the heat of the fire move you forward, guilt-free.  It has propelled me forward and pushed me to take action in dating and make new and exciting connections.  

I want every Wid to know that it's ok to feel the burn and let it motivate you in a positive way to seek whatever satisfies it, to manage the fire however feels right to you.  It's all normal.  The fire keeps us going.  It's a sign you are still alive.

The community is here for you.  Join us and see what happens!

With burning love,


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