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Dating & Desire
Beyond Bereavement.

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Widow's Fire

/ˈwidō/ /ˈfī(ə)r/

A burning desire for sex following bereavement of a spouse or partner

Let's be open about

Dating again 

Craving touch

Role of sex within grief

Guilt & Judgement

Navigating the dating world

Rejection & new heartbreaks

Naked with someone new

Enjoying sex in new ways

Relationship with your body

Romantic hopes & dreams for the future

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Widow's Fire Support
I'm Julia - your Widow's Fire Host.

Are you...

Interested in meeting other wids?

Ready to meet potential new friends/romantic partners?

Curious about other Wids' feelings and dating experiences?

A Wid with kids?  Trying to date while raising kids?

A Wid now experiencing a breakup of a relationship post loss?

Curious about self-discovery & your sexuality?

In need of support navigating the dating world?

Heartbroken, Hopeful & ...Horny?

Get in touch to talk about... touch!

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Become a member of the Widow's Fire Community & Dating site!

So, you went through the hell of your partner dying.

Suddenly, a spark ignites and you find yourself craving touch,  thinking about sex, wanting romance and companionship.



You lost your person!  You are still human!

You miss the intimacy you shared.

  This is a safe place to talk about a belief and hope for love after loss, and any desires for sex & romance after loss.  Widow's Fire was the most powerful aspect of my grief.  All I could think and worry about right after my loss was when I would ever be touched again.  My daily doses of love and affection were wiped out.  I panicked.  5 years later, I am still fascinated by the Fire.  It caught me by surprise and I thought I was going crazy. 

When you are ready to take this step in your grief journey, please know you are joining a community of people who can relate.    It is a place for all who believe in life and love after loss, who want a community of honesty, fun, and support and who understand that this is not a road to navigate alone. 

We are all finding our way through the Fire.

Click to join the WF Community & Dating Site and and you will be emailed a link.  Create a profile and enter a world where Wids connect over a variety of topics and interests, with the option to message privately.  You never know who you might meet and how your life might move forward. 

It's ok to feel these flames. 

With burning love,


2018 cancer widow at age 31,

1 month after birth of first and only child.

Living in Toronto, Canada (2023)

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